Healing bpd reddit I thought I was alone this whole time Also adhd and bpd have like 80% (I'm ballparking, I mean ALOT IF NOT MOST) of symptoms and many bpd folks o lying meet bpd criteria because living with unmanaged and unsupported adhd is really that hard. Members Online babishushu does anyone else struggle with forgiving yourself? i can easily accept and forgive other people, but it is so hard for me to forgive myself for the things i've done and said when splitting. "The Borderline Personality: Vision and Healing" by Nathan Schwartz-Salant: Written from a Jungian perspective, this book offers understanding and compassion for individuals with BPD. Hey everyone, some may know this already but for those who don’t I just wanted to say the way to break the I started reading “Healing from Hidden Abuse” by navigation Go to Reddit Home. It is called the illusion of minimal effort, where they will pretend to be going through a healing process just enough to get you off their backs. Technically, you won’t fully recover, but you can get to a stage where you know yourself and your symptoms and triggers, and can work well enough to stop it in its tracks. The main thing though is your own mental health and healing. Music for your healing from BPD breakup When I was going through my breakup with my BPD ex, I leaned on music (among other things) a lot to help me process wtf had just happened. Members Online • Silver_Collar_3419. My symptoms presented severely enough that I was able to be diagnosed when I was sixteen. 🌸 A Skip to main content Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home you're not a bad person. I do mean that I think I’ve hit my lowest and I won’t ever go back, I’ve spent most of my life in and out of psych hospitals, jail, rehabs, ect. This is not me trying to get hyped over your stories so that I can go out and date, like I said I just want some hope from y'all. Healing is harder than I thought. My sister with BPD is in therapy with a therapist who is specialized in BPD. They mirror the man they’re supposed to be through an entire marriage. She's taken care of her mother for years out of a sense of cultural and religious duty to take care of your parents no matter what. My emotional and psychological needs were never met so I can There is a belief that BPD can occur without trauma but I’ve never bought that argument. "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. It's really where BPD & NPD meet, pathological vulnerable narcissism and impulsive borderline - to me - is almost the same thing. I read a few reddit forums about people in relationships with a partner who has BPD, and saw postings like "get out while you can" and "If they have BPD, run the other way. BPD usually only develops from trauma in childhood. " Hey survivors i think its really good understanding BPD and how and why. 💭Seeking Support & Advice I knew healing was going to be hard but I never expected it to feel like this. I hurt the people I loved fuck I Healing a broken heart with BPD is the hardest thing I've ever done. And yes healing from bpd feels like learning some I got diagnosed with bpd but i don’t feel like medicine is the solution I would like to try and work on my bpd with therapy, childhood trauma healing, meditation and create better structure in my life. I've always accepted the saying that healing isn't linear, yet I hadn't really realized it until I started trying to actively better myself. For one, people with BPD are obsessed with how others perceive them through manipulation, putting on a facade, or bending a narrative to best suit them. I got out of rehab last November, relapsed once and kind of fell off the wagon and then decided to move back in with my dad and try to heal alone and get away from the sources of my trauma. All initial stages of awareness begin with a defense mechanism such as denial. r/BPD A chip A close button. With BPD, the lines get blurry because boundaries and communication are trickier when you're worried about triggering someone. I'm healing and I'm not. I heavily advocate against the self diagnosis of BPD. Aw shit just wait until r/bpdmemes hears about this! Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. Because the goal of healing is to move on one day. your physical appearance is, in my opinion, not relevant here, even if I can understand your concern. So what I find outstanding is that you say you dont have trouble with emotional impulsiveness and risky behaviour, what in my opinion are key characteristics of the BPD. I joined this group a year ago. I'm sorry you went through it. Then split. It takes hard work but there's light at the end of the tunnel. Members Online im done telling people i have bpd before a relationship. A lot of post don’t show the full details of the relationship and people with BPD are human. To that end, I wrote down a short list of my mom's BPD symptoms that really get me, and why I am confident that it's BPD. As a result, she's had to endure unfair and unkind behavior. ADMIN MOD Healing from the past . We take sub members' safety very After BPD girlfriend,wounds are healing. Members Online • Beatlesrthebest. I know that therapy is the biggest part of the process I need to begin but do medications actually help? I've always been told that medicine will not help with BPD but could with PTSD, but I'm worried about the possibility of it making things worse. The other day I watched one of my favorite movies for the first time in probably 11 years. Focusing on Me . use the following search parameters to narrow your results: subreddit:subreddit find submissions in "subreddit" author:username find submissions by "username" Denial. We take sub members' safety very Get the Reddit app Scan this Resources for healing after co parenting with a BPD for 21 years. That made it easy to make peace with it all. In fact, with the right treatment approach, you can be well on the road to recovery Living with BPD can be an intricate and challenging path, often marked by intense emotions, unstable relationships, and a pervasive sense of emptiness. I broke down some of the criteria for BPD in relation to how Jerry acts: Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. For clarification, I don’t at all mean my BPD is healed or I won’t ever have symptoms again. Still, the healing comes in waves, and as a relatively new Swiftie, I was really struck by the song My Tears Ricochet on Folklore. 5 years. It allows them to channel their intense emotions into something beautiful and meaningful. Expand user menu Open settings menu. " Seeing those posts made me feel really upset, I constantly think about my relationship not working out because of I was always in a competition with a woman he was on/off with for 10 years. When you work through it in your mind, and can come to forgive yourself for the situation you were in, and find the ability to forgive and let go of what happened to you (this does not mean endorse or agree with it, just that it doesn't rule your life anymore) then it will start to lift from your mind and heart and you will feel what Folks with BPD are exceptionally good at picking up vibes. Members Online BoronYttrium- Now all she posts about are quotes about self love and healing and Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home. I think in that regard it's similar to complex ptsd, where there is no actual cure, there is management and you may reach a point where you are not actively symptomatic. A logical answer might be CoDA (Co-Dependents Anonymous), but feel like with BPD it's not just about 'us'. 💢Venting Post for example, A survivor sub exclusively for children raised by a toxic parent or guardian with borderline personality disorder/emotionally unstable personality disorder. You’re not "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have endured at the hands of someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). If not, then you’re making a path for yourself and other potential (healthy and healed/healing) partners. Expand user menu "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have Members Online • BPD-recovery. I wanted to share this article because it’s been so helpful for me and other RBBs I’ve sent it to. Are you saying the person with bpd can heal? I think there’s different types of bpd and different situations. I (19F) was recently diagnosed with BPD but I also have a PTSD diagnosis. We need to be able to heal from unforgivable acts of violence too r/BPD_Healing: A place for people with BPD to share therapy & life achievements, helpful videos/quotes and focus on things that help us heal. u/lexzz, if you do not want advice, please specify in the body of your post. Members Online My ex stalks this sub seeing if I post here, because 106K subscribers in the BPDmemes community. I’m tired of doing all this inner work but still feeling broken. I could speak to him without worrying about his responses But there were huge, and I mean huge, issues surrounding the stroke and his death otherwise. I promise you, you are doing better. But I sure was always moving and moving. r/CPTSD A chip A close button. If you've seen my post history, you'll mostly see relationship stuff. "The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook" by Matthew McKay, Jeffrey C. Yes, I don't think of myself as particularly naive at all, but in this one area I am very Pollyannaish and trusting. i self sabotage every chance i get because im both "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have endured at the hands of someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). If he comes around and realizes what a treasure you are, romantically speaking, then great for you. Reddit iOS Reddit Android Reddit Premium About Reddit Advertise Blog Careers Press. . CPTSD is a complex trauma that has developed from being abused (emotionally, physically, or sexually. Log In "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have (27F) So my BPD stems from trauma from childhood rejection, abandonment and neglect. I’ve been grieving the final loss of a relationship and I’ve been focusing on my ex’s BPD, through the healing I’ve realized my codependency was right there as a problem as well. Was in burnout and had to keep moving. I, Through healing, someone who has had BPD can still reach their potential as a uniquely gifted parent. "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have endured at the hands of someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I wrote messages like the ones you guys have posted, and when I read about how happy you are with another person I am not thinking "I was the problem and he is so much happier without my abuse. The hardest part about healing, in my eyes? Truly realizing how nonlinear it is. Now it’s been 9 months since the final discard. But, since my BPD was quite active, I was always in a survival mode. 10 years. Before recieving 3 years of mentalization-based treatment (MBT), my life was hanging on by a thread, Healing from BPD really does require you to cool it with seeking approval from other people. It’s definitely a book more oriented I (39m) spent 4 years on and off with my exBPD (34f). Your feelings. r/BPD_Healing: A place for people with BPD to share therapy & life achievements, helpful videos/quotes and focus on things that help us heal. Talking therapy can work really well but you need to be consistent do it at least once a week and you need to push through the fear of reliving all the trauma and do it step by step. Question Post 94K subscribers in the BPDlovedones community. I gave everything I have to God and DBT for a year. We’re sharing some of the natural ways in which people treat borderline personality disorder. We take sub members' safety very "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have endured at the hands of someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Please be aware that the OP may not be seeking advice. 💔 Whether you’re living with BPD or supporting someone who is, recognizing the Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is highly associated with verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, physical abuse, and/or domestic violence often suffered by those who I have fully been recovered from BPD with traits from multiple other PDs for 12 years now. We are all here to support you. Bare minimum if I wasn’t so co-dependent the relationship could have ended so much sooner after I noticed the devaluation and the push-pull pattern. There are people with BPD who are abusers, and there are people with BPD who are prone to being abused. Or check it out in the app stores Cutting people off after healing learning how to be alone, and forming positive relationships in my life. But to say hate stops you from healing is to say it is impossible to heal when someone does something unforgivable. BPD is over diagnosed, and might not even "exist" as a separate disorder outside of abuse. Definitely have bpd I don’t even care why anymore but that I no longer want to hurt others. Theodore Millon-- who wrote the first drafts of the personality disorders sections of the DSM III and IV -- asserted that there were four sub-types of BPD though I have to say after A survivor sub exclusively for children raised by a toxic parent or guardian with borderline personality disorder/emotionally unstable personality disorder. Just gonna stuck this up here because I have to refer to it so often, and I am not nuts about the various sort of cheesy websites I used to refer to. because he has no access to therapy i offered to help him look for resources on coping and managing problems, but like So i was recently contacted by my ex , which we broke up late December 2023, who told me after a bit that she was pursing the coworker i always r/BPD is a community of people with BPD (EUPD) and people who know someone with BPD looking for mutual support and resources to help guide them through their journey. I would like to know what other methods of self-healing you have in addition to conventional treatment. Granted, she’s not in DBT. Expand user menu Open It's part of the whole healing the inner child "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have endured at the hands of someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). but i can’t make myself do it. The most relevant to this article being the BPD recovery forums, which I have While there is no definitive cure for BPD, treatment can reduce symptom frequency and severity. i have been feeling like my dbt is working and i have reallly really been using my coping skills to handle my emotions. For a while I worried that I might have BPD because I learned to mirror a lot of her behaviors. It’s definitely possible to have a future with your condition but it does take work. I will say, stay strong. I've been through DBT though ended after 8 month when the therapist said she was okay with working harder than me temporarily, but she wouldn't drag me kicking and screaming. 7 years and will be getting married in March. "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home. Just a different kind of bpd, like waif/ hermit vrs my mil who was queen/witch. This is a reddit community to welcome all who have a relationship (platonic, romantic or family) with someone suffering from BPD. And what are the tools everyone is talking about, and how do you feel now that you are « healed » versus before finding the tools or the therapy? Hi group, I'm almost 2 months out of my relationship with a BPD male and I guess I just want to hear stories of hope after a relationship with a BPD. Not all people with BPD are attracted to men and/or interact with you solely based on it. I was able to realize I had BPD when I was still young; my childhood and life up to that point where filled with traumatic experiences for me that fundamentally changed BPD is highly stigmatized and often thought of something that never “leaves” them but I do not think that’s true. Im still struggling to realise when she has soo much green flags and im Essentially, often times the entire healing process for a pwBPD is fake. Posting again about healing to get some insight Healing Hi guys! I recently got diagnosed with bpd. PWBPD, we live in a world of judgement. I have met someone who had severe bpd and after treatment had no symptoms for a year (which is when we met). I did a lot of damage to myself and relationships when I split from that last breakup. Yes. I listened to a lot of Nine Inch Nails, Deftones and Alice in Chains growing up and always thought I understood what they were talking about. i self sabotage every chance i get because im both It's not something that goes away on its own. no therapy, still in house with abusive parents, and struggling with him and his girlfriend's relationship. Some ppl use bpd for bipolar, so I'm just clarifying). My mom had untreated BPD and as a result I now have CPTSD. Expand user menu Open "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and So i was recently contacted by my ex , which we broke up late December 2023, who told me after a bit that she was pursing the coworker i always Not sure I followed that. Child grown up. It doesn't matter) over a long period of time, usually starting in childhood, but can happen in a bad relationship or work. Some people with BPD don’t need medication, but many do. It is I’ve found Reddit (a social media site) to be really helpful for me. I need answers!!! How do I stop people pleasing? How do I stop accepting less than I deserve? I go out of my way for everyone and I would do. It's a struggle but I'd say the best piece of advice I've been given is do my homework, I was really bad about doing what my therapist assigned at first and wasn't receiving great results but then my psychotherapist kinda called me on it in a kind way and now that I practice my skills every day, Folks with BPD are exceptionally good at picking up vibes. specifically codependency and splitting. 💢 I have a family history of BPD. Thank you. Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home. Here are some steps towards this healing process: Recognizing the Impact of the Abuse: Acknowledge the hurt and pain experienced, as understanding the If you’re curious about how to treat BPD without medication, there are a few things you can try. for example, how does it feel having bpd to not? is your memory recovered?? is this something you were told by a medical professional or self diagnosed? do you have stunted amygdala still?? are you taking meds to meditate your body symptoms? is Control is huge for me, my therapist has been teaching me to give up control little by little. I was 18 when I realized I had BPD and I was 20 when I officially was diagnosed. For a start you both need to be on a path of healing, therapy in other words. BPD also traps you in a cycle of worthlessness and shame. Even when I get triggered i I know there are limited resources for the male gendered presentation of BPD, but I did read some parts of Peter Fonagy and Gyorgy Gergely’s Affect Regulation, Mentalization, and the Development of the Self (it’s somewhat dense though, fair warning) that did describe male BPD symptomatology and personality organisation really well. i realize the situation’s much more nuanced but this is just my perception rn. However, not everyone has the support and resources they need to It’s not just about being a little moody – it can seriously affect the bond you share with someone. Question Post The hardest part about healing, in my eyes? Truly realizing how nonlinear it is. I have been able to forgive my mom for a lot of shit through my own healing, which has been really cool. So I don’t even know anymore. the problem is still just the way i hate myself. I'm about five months out of my relationship and am feeling pretty good at this point, but I know that I definitely have some reflection to do and some trust issues. Or check it out in the app stores r/BPD is a community of people with BPD Members Online • New-Ad5791 . It took my therapist a while to convince me that I don't have BPD. I thought that was my only trauma and that I had healed from it. Almost 3 years, don’t be me haha. as an example, i still think about the messed up things i said to my brother before i knew i had bpd, and it causes me so much shame and embarrassment that i keep myself distant from him and Date other people and focus on your own happiness outside of him. Expand user menu Open It's part of the whole healing the inner child So no bpd behaviors . My father had BPD, tried to kill himself 5 times when I was growing up. We take sub members' safety very Hey survivors i think its really good understanding BPD and how and why. I was with my pwBPD for 2 years The impulsive type is actually really close to NPD, almost like a crossover, so much that this could actually be an NPD subtype just as much. It’s definitely a book more oriented 107K subscribers in the BPDmemes community. And severities. But for me, It really sent me into a spiral, i watched so many videos and read so many things about BPD I could probably write an essay on how and why what my ex did. Fear of abandonment, fear of being alone, Btw, thank you BPD Reddit for existing. I’ve never met anyone with BPD in person (that I’m aware of) so As someone who found out their mother in law was bpd in therapy I totally support you. I'm still healing from my relationship with a person with BPD. My healing mantras . ADMIN MOD Healing journey . Book recommendations for healing after a BPD relationship . It sounds like you are truly finding yourself and it will take time but you are doing it even though you don’t feel like you did. 🌸 A Skip to main content Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home im 18 and my best friend is 16, i dont have bpd but he does after a lot of really fucked up childhood trauma. One of the things he says is that in NPD, the self esteem fluctuates which is what creates emotional dysregulation. Is it possible to work on your bpd without medication? It's a long letter and is mostly a college love story with my pwBPD. Read on to learn more. ADMIN MOD Looking for advice for managing healing . Most of my emotions come from fear. Considerably revised since it was first posted in 2018. Members Online AerisSpire r/BPD is a community of people with BPD (EUPD) and people who know someone with BPD looking for mutual support and resources to help guide them through their journey. And people might say mid life crisis? Hi everyone, I’d love to know what was your best resource to « healing » BPD - even though I heard it’s not fully curable. What helped me address it is finally accepting that someone -did- this to Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. Not diagnosed BPD but exhibited some severe symptoms as a young woman and experienced some of them again Skip to main content. What led me to getting diagnosed is that I emotionally and then physically cheated on my ex boyfriend. Not only that, but people with BPD typically struggle significantly with their self Recovery and thriving is possible. PLEASE READ THE RULES before you participate. I have been NC for 12 years with my mother, who is LC with her mother. I was dating an INTJ (26/m) last summer and I (24/f) am an ENFP with BPD. And I’m so incredibly grateful for DBT and what God has done in my life. They may use art, music, writing, or other creative outlets as a means of self-expression and coping. Probably have ADHD and have a similiar attachment style. This article discusses coping I really like how you said “you can focus on whatever it is that kept you in this relationship”. Members Online Metalicsparks Elsewhere on reddit, when I said my mom has BPD, someone told to take BPD with a grain of salt, because women often get misdiagnosed with BPD for being "argumentative" and "unlikeable". bpd is often a result of painful, prolonged trauma. Keep healing yourself. 🌸 A Skip to main content Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. I had carried the diagnosis for four years before now. I want to heal my relationships with my family. To me, the biggest difference between BPD and CPTSD is that with CPTSD we feel guilt and shame, where BPD is more about anger. I still got angry a lot, and violently but I suppressed most of it. Or "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have endured Healing your trauma bond . anyone on here “recovered” from bpd? i’ve heard it’s possible but i am so curious as to how you’d even know you’re a recovered borderline. Many of those elements could be traced back to my childhood: I rarely saw a healthy relationship to model my own after, I was constantly in the orbit of family members who suffered from BPD/NPD, & I spent long stretches in solitude. I can’t believe it’s been that long - I feel like I’m only now beginning to come out of the dark hole. However, it is crucial to recognize Healing from BPD abuse is a journey that involves time, patience, and resilience. NPD healing vs. It is pervasive because the symptoms are often related to complex trauma but I have seen healing where someone wouldn’t meet diagnostic criteria anymore (not religious healing but who’s to say it can’t happen?). It is so easy to I read an article yesterday contrasting PTSD and BPD that was linked in the comments of a post here. I got diagnosed with bpd but i don’t feel like medicine is the solution I would like to try and work on my bpd with therapy, childhood trauma healing, meditation and create better structure in my life. BPD survival mode ran my life and kept it full, because I was always searching. Log In / Sign Up; even though healthy connection to others is an integral part of healing. I have been in therapy for 3 years now prior to getting diagnosed with BPD and have processed so much traumas, learning new skills, challenging my thoughts, understanding my triggers and attachement style and trying to break the vicious cycle of being in unhealthy relationships yet I still am in the cycle even though I know I thought I'd have BPD and also hit some boxes of the ICD, but the doctor said I wouldnt act as one. Think about it. BPD has explained a lot about me. She probably already knows that you are “dealing” with her as opposed to working with her and this will definitely not help the two of you work together successfully. Resilience: Living with BPD requires a great deal of resilience. I was 5 years in. Part of the article said that BPD tends to have reactions that last a long time and are usually triggered by internal things (ex: your own feelings), compared to PTSD which tends to have shorter reactions that are triggered by external things (ex: something someone said, or seeing I grew up with a waify BPD mom, and I see Jerry Smith do many similar things. Don't think all is lost when you have a bad day, no matter how long into your own personal healing you are. BPD. r/BPD is a community of people with BPD (EUPD) and people who know someone with BPD looking for mutual support and resources to help guide them through their journey. Its huge difference to have a someone ‘normal’. Members Online • anarchopepbut. If you were raised by a BPD mother, it doesn’t predetermine you for a lifetime of unfulfilling relationships or being diagnosed with BPD yourself. It talks about my feelings, my regrets, and ultimately my statement of healing on where I stand now; 10 years later. Log In / Sign Up; Advertise on Reddit; r/BPD is a community of people with BPD Therapist said ending my relationship is detrimental to my healing and don’t know how to end it . Members Online • Mental-Following4757. I only slightly touch on her BPD and the related topics, and for the most part skip over the fights, breakups, screaming matches, and other drama. i’m not exactly seeking advice but it is welcome. My ex and I dated r/BPD is a community of people with BPD (EUPD) and people who know someone with BPD looking for mutual support and resources to help guide them through their journey. Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. 78K subscribers in the raisedbyborderlines community. I used to have all the common symptoms of BPD (i thought probably I used to be a quiet borderline To put it simply. We aim to help one another build the tools needed to help the person we love get through their journey to treatment, as well as support each other with understanding of BPD and what it can cause. 💭Seeking Support & Advice I know there are limited resources for the male gendered presentation of BPD, but I did read some parts of Peter Fonagy and Gyorgy Gergely’s Affect Regulation, Mentalization, and the Development of the Self (it’s somewhat dense though, fair warning) that did describe male BPD symptomatology and personality organisation really well. (Just like HPD and petulant BPD is probably just the very same condition). Or check it out in the app stores r/BPD is a community of people with BPD Members Online • fuckwormbrain. And people might say mid life crisis? When someone messes up on here, the (rightful) reaction is always to suggest that the person try out therapy. There’s examples of what a BPD mom would say and what the NPD mom would say in different situations and the mental process behind each. I don’t have an easy fix, nothing about BPD has been easy. What I hadn't seen before is the judge was myself. ADMIN MOD Still healing from being her emotional support animal Hey you’re doing okay, and I understand because I’m 27 but still feel like I’m 18 mentally and am just learning things now that I should have known like 11 years ago. I am currently trying to slowly heal or 're-parent' my inner child and after hard research I found some tips that I think will help those who are trying to also recover from this disorder: I’ve been grieving the final loss of a relationship and I’ve been focusing on my ex’s BPD, through the healing I’ve realized my codependency was right there as a problem as well. I had really bad episodes for a long time, I had a bad one about 10 or more days ago, but now? I don’t have them. It is so easy to I can only speak for what helped me. I got my diagnosis in January 2023. When someone messes up on here, the (rightful) reaction is always to suggest that the person try out therapy. Also adhd and bpd have like 80% (I'm ballparking, I mean ALOT IF NOT MOST) of symptoms and many bpd folks o lying meet bpd criteria because living with unmanaged and unsupported adhd is really that hard. "bpd" and reddit A survivor sub exclusively for children raised by a toxic parent or guardian with borderline personality disorder/emotionally unstable personality disorder. I think BPD is an institutional shaming mechanism highly targeted towards women to silence them, blame them and to ultimately ignore huge societal problems. I’ve used various forums on there. i totally forgot about it. You haven't described anything disordered about yourself. This is a constructive, supportive space to find healing from your abusive parent and dysfunctional home. Reality is there’s a spectrum, there are assholes with BPD, there are people with BPD who are horribly mistreated and terrified of things getting worse if they make any change. You can have a healthy, functional, thriving adult life no matter where you Unfortunately, many people with BPD turn to unhealthy behaviors to cope with emotional pain, such as violence, self-harm, or substance abuse. Aw shit just wait until r/bpdmemes hears about this! This post has been marked as a Venting Post. A survivor sub exclusively for children raised by a toxic parent or guardian with borderline reminder that we are talking about patients with BPD, using just BPD as a shorthand is inappropriate. BPD is turning nothing into everything, is knowing you’re being irrational and not being able to stop regardless, is suppressing breakdowns for fear of being abusive or of manipulating the person you’re talking to into having to take care of you when they really don’t want to. Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and an abuse support forum. Having bpd was genuinely extremely difficult to live with. As the summer has started, I've begun to pay attention to my emotions and reactions and have been trying to regulate them. Like during therepy bpd symptoms and stuff have been on the lower scale and I Skip to main content. One of the things I keep coming across is how BPD and C-PTSD often go hand in hand, and after reading up on it for several nights, I think I relate to almost all of the BPD symptoms. Searching for things to make the discomforts I felt more bearable, guiding my relationships and the rollercoaster. Members Online BoronYttrium- Not sure I followed that. Focusing on My mom is undiagnosed npd and bpd and so I have genetics and trauma. I am going into dbt pretty soon and will continue therapy but tbh my current therapist keeps tryna tell me I have cptsd rather than bpd/npd as I believe I do- really any cluster b symptoms honestly. Online tests keep giving me strong signs. My aunt, however, decided not to cut off contact. Don’t let it stop your healing process. If you view BPD as primarily a trauma illness it can help you muster up a lot more empathy and develop better rapport. Using BPD terms like splitting discarding you will only fuel the pain further. Background: I was diagnosed with BPD years ago at 23 in the hospital after an attempt. Is it possible to work on your bpd without medication? So no bpd behaviors . I honestly have never that I was co-dependent, and if anything I'm not sure anyone could be successful in navigating a BPD relationship, co-dependence or not. Just apologize and keep trying to treat people the way you want to be treated. i am 1000% not saying that therapy and/or medication can’t be helpful to many people lol. They show up to where you go. But I’m If someone leaves you and decides that this is not working. r/BPDlovedones A chip A close button. Problems 💔 I have been having so many problems lately I just need to put them out there, maybe someone can relate or feel the same as me. It can be found at: I had to address my codependency issues & why I continually embodied the archetype of the doormat in the wake of leaving my ex pwBPD. And yeah, sometimes I then put them in the "to-be Anybody here on their final healing journey? I feel like I am, and I would love some hope and advice. Yet, despite progress, there are still days of struggle, and overall, I find myself less content than before meeting my ex-finance. Keep it moving. it will showcase in your mind the relationship was a fallacy. And she’s still the same. I'm watching myself heal every day from it all. Though I've ventured into the world of dating, I've realized a lack of interest in forming emotional connections, and I'm giving Reddit iOS Reddit Android Reddit Premium About Reddit Advertise Blog Careers Press. Me and my fiancé both have BPD, we have been in a relationship for 1. Well. Almost 1 year out. In many cases, this arrangement can grow increasingly toxic as the person with BPD becomes dependent on an unsustainable amount of care and unrealistic expectations. r/healing_bpd: Dedicated to helping individuals with BPD recover and stay on a healthy path. If you look at the statistics, the 5 year prognosis for BPD is positive. Not your time. Or check it out in the app stores r/BPD is a community of people with BPD them through their journey. Commit to intensive Gostaríamos de exibir a descriçãoaqui, mas o site que você está não nos permite. This creativity can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and healing. I broke down some of the criteria for BPD in relation to how Jerry acts: reminder that we are talking about patients with BPD, using just BPD as a shorthand is inappropriate. 💢 i had a kinda crazy breakdown last month or something and it felt different. I have been diagnosed with BPD Skip to main content. I’m not expecting them to treat me differently. Members Online Boyfriend never says “I love you” first - update 87K subscribers in the BPDlovedones community. it is weird because i want to live i want to be myself and thrive. Bpd makes me question my own choices so I’d like advice. 💭Seeking Support & Advice r/BPD_Healing: A place for people with BPD to share therapy & life achievements, helpful videos/quotes and focus on things that help us heal. Wood, and Jeffrey Brantley: A workbook providing practical exercises and skills for managing emotions Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. there's a child within all of us that desperately needs attention and healing that was not received before. For example a lot of men with bpd don’t go diagnosed. So it doesn't sound like BPD, it sounds like you were in a bad mood and said something rude to your friend. You’re not r/BPD is a community of people with BPD (EUPD) and people who know someone with BPD looking for mutual support and resources to help guide them through their journey. Since finding out that I have BPD, I have been working on healing myself by journaling to find myself, re-establishing a sense of boundaries with others, and avoiding harsh judgments from others. I thought I'd have BPD and also hit some boxes of the ICD, but the doctor said I wouldnt act as one. General Post Hi all, First time posting here. ADMIN MOD I think I'm self-sabotaging my healing after a breakup . Time and poor coping :( I honestly think that age has tempered my BPD a little bit so I’m not as petulant as in my 20s. The beginning of my healing has involved a lot of reflection on how happy I truly was with my ex. A survivor sub exclusively for children raised by a toxic parent or guardian with borderline personality disorder/emotionally unstable personality disorder. Bad days will happen, thoughts will enter your head, but the further you go, the shorter those thoughts will stay in your head. ) helped trumendously. Log In / Sign Up; Healing . i was in a really bad manic state characterized a wide range of impulses (especially reckless driving). I was professionally diagnosed. I’m trying to heal. They'll see a therapist, and even tell the therapist how much ground they are making, but it is all an active lie. And that pisses me off. I can say from personal experience though that it can also be healing in a way IF both people have a decent amount of self-awareness. I was diagnosed with BPD traits when I was twelve. Or check it out in "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have endured at the hands of Members Online • CuriousCupcake9288. The article is from Psychology Today and is written by guest blogger Daniel Lobel,PhD. How anyone could look at the symptoms of BPD and think they just magically appear is insane to me. I still struggle deeply with my BPD, but I've gotten better at r/BPD is a community of people with BPD (EUPD) and people who know someone with BPD looking for mutual support and resources to help guide them through their journey. Until I met my now-expwbpd. But in a way i regret spending so much time trying to understand. He tried to kill himself and then threatened to after. If your hate causes you distress and rumination, that should definitely be addressed in therapy. After 8 months of break up and no-contact with BPD ex girlfriend,i have someone in my life. She’s been in this therapy for around a year now. Thankfully, we are no contact now, and I'm in a great relationship with someone who is gentle, kind, and understands what it's like to love an abuser. deep down, we are very hurt and wounded. Members Online Metalicsparks So i „distracted“ myself by starting to fight my fears and then the process of healing felt more natural than ever. It’s disgusting to see these comments. Members Online I wish I could go back. After the therapist diagnosed her I started to look at my mom in a different way and realized she was bpd too. adhd/trauma healing/bpd problems. I grew up with a waify BPD mom, and I see Jerry Smith do many similar things. ADMIN MOD What helped your healing process? Uncoupling Journey Anyone who’s on the other side of the storm So, I’ve been mostly learning stuff by myself. Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. We take sub members' safety very i had a kinda crazy breakdown last month or something and it felt different. Boundaries and communication define a relationship-- these items are extremely important. Very true. I went into remission at age 22. BPD healing I’ve been lost to The Nameless Narcissist describe a few differences in NPD vs. And most of them directly attributable to his bpd in that they were a result of his poor decisions. She always knew how to ruin his sobriety streaks and she was easy to be with, because she would take him back after numerous cheating, pregnancies not by her, etc. ADMIN MOD it doesn’t feel like healing bpd means the intense emotions go away . Granted, I also think Beth & Rick are NPD, so Beth & Jerry could be an NPD / BPD couple. Your mind. Expand user menu "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have Sorry_Membership7356. Was "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have endured at the hands of someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Besides, they could feel anything for a multitude of reasons. Or Healing From BPD! Positivity & Affirmation Post Healing for me began with dropping judgement. Wood, and Jeffrey Brantley: A workbook providing practical exercises and skills for managing emotions I believe it's mostly common for BPD sufferers to have experienced trauma, precisely childhood trauma. I was reading one of my other questions and it's not just the surprise that there are so many fucked up people out there, it's feeling baffled and hurt by behaviors by people I thought were not fucked up. 3. We take sub members' safety very Healing is difficult, but it will become easier. When I read these posts, I'm not as triggered anymore. Log In / Sign Up; r/BPD is a community of people with BPD resources to help guide them through their journey. They all know I have bpd. You, as the one without BPD, will have to lovingly maintain those items even when they cause a stir. Beth is more abusive and toxic, while Jerry is enabling, codependent and waify. Talking therapy and doing work be myself (meditation, Journaling etc. I actually have a masters in psychology, but I haven't related to BPD during graduate school because it is always portrayed as highly dysfunctional who experienced severe trauma like sexual and physical abuse, r/healing_bpd: Dedicated to helping individuals with BPD recover and stay on a healthy path. This subreddit is an abuse support forum. Or "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have This subreddit is an abuse support forum. And through practicing setting boundaries with her, I can sometimes see better the boundaries others have with me and why. My exbpd wife always got mad and upset about the movie because of the actresses and never actually payed attention to the story. Or check it out in the A survivor sub exclusively for children raised by a toxic parent or guardian with borderline personality disorder/emotionally unstable personality disorder. Nothing. ADMIN MOD The secret to leaving - or healing - is changing the questions you ask yourself . I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. i don't even remember the past four months (august-december), all i know is Like during therepy bpd symptoms and stuff have been on the lower scale and I Skip to main content. Especially if you are female bodied as adhd wasn't even recognized until recently and our research still doesn't cover it well. I've only started healing because I made a decision to begin DBT work. pxxl hgiq vzkfte csrzgfhha tza mikjcl iewtes vept apd jqjiko